Let’s all admit it, we all had that one moment where our heart was stabbed, cracked up, wounded… and left bleeding… it hurts like hell, the kind of hurt that is unbearable and can’t be explained and it literally feels that it’s taking your life… worst part? The scar, It doesn’t heal…
All you can think of at that very moment was “Why?”. You even get to question the man above what was his purpose why you had to go through such an excruciating pain? Why of all people, it had to be you… You who gave him every single thing that you can offer, who never thought of herself and all was directed to him. The next thing you had in mind is “How?”. How will you be able to get your feet out of the quick sand that is slowly drowning you? How you wish that one morning when you wake up, you have this selective amnesia, and just keep the happy memories you had with him. How will you move on from this?
As cliché as it may sound, “Time heals everything” it just needs proper timing. Yes, it is always easier said than done. But one cannot move on or let go of all the hurt, if they kept on clinging or looking back on those days where eventually hurt still exist. Forgiveness doesn’t come in flash, nor months, not even years. A person forgives when they are ready and when they chose to forgive. Forgiveness is never coercion, it needs to be earned, it needs time and it needs to be worked on. You do not forgive someone just because someone close or dear to you said so, may it be a family or a close friend. No! It will always be your choice. Forgive when your heart is ready. When your heart has grieved and is now ready to move on. One vital part in forgiving and moving on is “Acceptance”. You need to learn how to accept that shitty things happen to anyone and yes it can happen in a blink of an eye, and yes, it can happen to anyone and it happened to you.
Yes the process might take long, but I tell you, it will be all worth it. All the pain, tears and sacrifices you have gone through will pay off in the end. How? What do you get in return? You get the strength of heart, mind and soul. Which no one can ever take away from you. Once you learn to let go and just let God, life will be much easier…lighter. You will be happier that a burden was taken off of your shoulder. By then, you can smile… and later on be happy again. After all, we all need to learn how to be happy and content with ourselves. You do not need someone to fulfill that happiness in you, it has always been there, you just have to discover it. And once you do, you can touch that hole left open inside your heart, you can feel that it is no longer bleeding and it is sewed by forgiveness. 🙂
“The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.”
― Steve Maraboli